Wrongdoing: a Mutual Bondage.

The Art of Forgiveness: G Muller-Fahrenholz (Theologian).

In his research Muller-Farenholz considers wrong doing a mutual bondage. It entangles two people in a dance of emotions forever unless another element comes into play. “The perpetrator has stolen power, and the victim has had impotence thrust upon him. For the victim hurt is an impairment of his personhood.”

Lynne McTaggart states : ‘ Forgiveness can never replace justice, but it can move us beyond the simple notion that retribution is enough. In Western culture, which largely uses punishment and imprisonment to deal with transgression, both victim and perpetrator remain in bondage. The victim’s dignity and person hood (goods) are not restored, and the perpetrator never comes to grips with what he has done.”

It needs to include the element of forgiveness. The act of forgiveness liberates both the perpetrator and the victim from the shackle of shame and guilt. Through forgiveness both perpetrator and victim are equal having released the energy distortion and are free to move on with new options for the future. The pull of wholeness with is instinct within us strongly tugs at our sense of balance to restore harmony, and allows us to reconnect to the Bond.

The BOND: Our connectedness to each other and the world.

Forgiveness is a gift that we give to ourselves!


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